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Dr. G. David Boyd is the Founder and Managing Director of EA Resources.  If you would like to connect with me while at the festival, please text me at 612.875.0036.

 

4 Lies Church Taught Me about Sex

I found this article well-written, and true as I work regularly with those who were raised in the church, and are now married.

Two Quotes:

“Those of us who choose to wait do so because we hold certain beliefs about the sacredness of marriage and about God’s intentions and wishes for humanity, and we honor these regardless of whether they feel easier or harder.”

We do not refrain from sex because God will bless our sex lives.  We seek to glorify God with our lives before we are married by remaining pure.  We glorify God after marriage by enjoying His gift of sex.

“In the meantime, we in the evangelical church has a lot of work to do correcting the distorted ways we talk about sex and sexuality, especially to our youth.”

No youth pastor has ever tried confuse their students about sex, but it happens.  Even if we are careful about what we teach, we cannot control how it is heard.  However, perspectives like this are helpful as we try to address the sexual purity that is so desperately needed in our society without directing our sheep into other errors.

Read the Article here.

Dr. G. David Boyd

Why were tattoos so taboo?

Once associated only with motorcycle and street gangs, tattoos have now become a part of main-stream society.  Nearly four-in-ten Millennials have a tattoo (and for most who do, one is not enough: about half of those with tattoos have two to five and 18% have six or more).  Many Christ-followers are actually getting inked as a sign of their faith. Continue reading

Sacred Ink

tattooOnce associated only with motorcycle and street gangs, tattoos have now become a part of main-stream society.  Nearly four-in-ten Millennials have a tattoo (and for most who do, one is not enough: about half of those with tattoos have two to five and 18% have six or more).

It seems like this percentage is the same regardless of religious background.  The negative stigma of tattoos has been erased among many religious groups; but I have noticed that tattoos among believers sometimes look a little different.  Many Millennials are not just getting a tat, but a sacred piece of body art.

When deciding whether or not to get inked, many EA’s do not consider what others would think.  They were born before the negative stereotypes of tattoos, and never realized their ink would upset others.  The only outside opinion that seems to matter to emerging adults belongs to their parents.  One EA said, “My dad got extremely upset with me and shut himself out. My mom even though disappointed, was just happy I got something that wasn’t offensive.”  Once seen as a mark of rebellion against parents, I recently heard of a story of a father who was so moved by his son’s sacred ink that he went out and got one to match.

Tattoos are often a sign of their faith, and not a spirit of rebellion.  The legal age of tattoos in many states is 18, but people can get them before age 18 with the permission of a parent.  Desiring their tattoo not to be a mark of “youthful rebellion,” several emerging adults actually asked for their parents’ permission even after they reached the age requirement.  One EA said, “I talked with my parents beforehand and explained the significance [of my tattoo] and that I had been planning it for a while. I knew I did not need their permission, but I wanted to be respectful.”

So before you judge a EA by his or her skin, there are a few things you should know about tattoos.

Sacred Tattoos mark a spiritual turning point.

20140308_112144 (2)Much like the stone monument placed down by the Israelites in Joshua 4, emerging adults want something permanent to mark the movement of God in their lives.  Many emerging adults got tattoos to represent a personal struggle in their life including:  depression, or death of a friend.  One EA writes, “[after a friend’s suicide, my tattoo] was a promise to myself to never turn to suicide as an answer.”  Another EA writes that, “I got it when my life was shifting, but I was feeling solid about my faith. It seemed to be a good way to remember, the constant presence of God in it.”

One Emerging adult said that their tattoo represented a “significant paradigm shift.”  Knowing the struggle of keeping spiritual convictions and decisions, emerging adults want a daily reminder of their decision.  One EA says, “I decided I should keep my faith towards God growing. I needed something that would last, so I got the shield of faith tattooed on my forearm as a daily reminder.”  In a world filled with fleeting circumstances and flaky relationships, the permanence of tattoos can encourage and comfort them in their journey.

Sacred tattoos display a message to others.

EAs have grown up in a pluralistic society, and are conscious of crossing people’s personal boundaries.  Desiring to share their faith, tattoos allow Christians a reason to share their faith without being pushy.  One EA described it as a “conversation initiation tool” that allowed them to share their faith with others.  One EA compared it to baptism, saying, “…it is like baptism for me, a public testimony of your faith to those outside of the church.”

While some get the highly recognizable cross or bible references, EAs prefer something that needs a little explanation.  It is not because they are ashamed of their faith, but because they don’t want their tattoo to be bumper sticker that someone reads and walks away, but something that begins a conversation about faith.  Some EAs are getting words written in Greek, Hebrew, or Latin phrases that cannot be understood by a simple glance.  One described that their Hebraic tattoo comes from, “an ancient rabbinic goodbye, and signifies that disciples would be walking so closely behind their rabbi that the dust that he kicked up as he walked would cover them.”

Several expressed frustration when someone asked flippantly about a tattoo, because it represents such a depth of who they are which includes their faith.  One writes, “although it annoys me at work when customers ask because I don’t have time to talk about it at length.”  Their tattoos are not done in a spiritual high, but emerge from a deep desire for long-term faith.

Faith is hard.  During the difficult times of our journey, we all experience doubts.

Sacred Tattoos are a reminder to emerging adults of their commitment.  They know that these marks do not inherently hold spiritual power, but knowing how fleeting the human will can be, they want their faith to stick like the permanence of a tattoo.

Long after the water of baptism has dried, the retreat is over, and the spiritual high has faded, their ink remains.  They desire to mark their faith in a concrete way that will substantiate what God has done, and recognize His transforming effect on their life.

David - Prof 2Dr. G. David Boyd is the Managing Director of EA Resources, a non-profit designed to equip parents and churches to minister to emerging adults.  He is also the Founder of the EA Network, a national network to connect those who minister to emerging adults.

How to Get a Summer Job.

How to Get a Summer JobSummer is here, and many young adults are looking for a job.  While many jobs are already taken (Sorry, but you should have started a little sooner!), here is an article that can help you find work.

Remember your summer job is not about who you are, or what you will do for the rest of your life.  A summer job is following God’s direction into a position that can provide for you.

Here is another article that talks about Vocation.

Wherever you get placed, find ways to learn and enjoy it.

http://jobsearch.about.com/od/internshipssummerjobs/ss/apply-for-summer-jobs.htm

Dealing with the Dark Side of Church History (for Parents)

As children grow up, it is important to acknowledge that the historical church has not always stood on the right side of issues.  Due to human weaknesses, the church isn’t perfect; and therefore has a few skeletons in her closet.  For example, early church leaders claimed that the earth was in the center of the universe, and persecuted those who supported Copernicus’ theory of a sun-centered solar system.  Galileo, a scientist was arrested and placed under house arrest for supporting Copernicus’ theory.

The church definitely has a list of dark moments including: the Crusades, various periods of witch trials, slavery, domestic abuse, and the concept of “Manifest Destiny.”  Church leaders sometimes defended the atrocities of their times using bias interpretations of the Bible, while at other times they remained silent.

Bringing up the ugly past of the church may be difficult, but it is crucial for the healthy development of emerging adults.  EA’s need to have a clear understanding of church history before discovering these flaws in an academic environment that can be hostile to their faith.  Some emerging adults feel as if they have been deceived by parents and the church and causes them to be disillusioned with their faith.

Rather than covering up past failures, the church should be open about confessing its faults, and seek to be an authentic institution being led into change by the Holy Spirit to redeem the world and further God’s Kingdom.  In the Old Testament, illustrates the ups and downs of God’s people, why do we feel as if the church today would not have issues?

So here are a few thoughts to help you discuss with your emerging adults through the Dark Side of Church History.

1.            Be Honest about the past.

Acknowledge the church didn’t stand on the right side.  The church and its theology has been greatly affected throughout history by race, power, and politics.  Decisions on how the Bible should be interpreted were highly influenced by more than just the Holy Spirit, but were often taken over by sinful human will.  All of us approach scripture with a biased perception and often interpret the Bible to support our views.

Acknowledge the church didn’t stand on the same side.  During Hitler’s rise to power, the church split over their support for the dictator.  Martin Niemöller and Dietrich Bonhoeffer were two leaders of the German church who opposed him, and put their lives in jeopardy to stand for what they believed.  Sometimes church leaders changed their positions as the culture and climate changed.

In the United States, most churches in the south supported slavery, while other Christians fought for abolition.  Their beliefs were highly influenced by geographical location.  Different beliefs towards slavery divided denominations; divisions that still exist today.

While the past is dark, emerging adults can handle the truth.

2.            Don’t speak for the Past.

This wreath and doll was one of many left at the memorial this week. The memorial is for those persecuted in the Salem witch trials in Massachusetts in 1692.The text on the doll reads:Hatred and prejudice now banishedLet love resideAcross ...As a Christian, you don’t have to speak for the past.  Your child needs to understand that they don’t need to be the defense attorney for Christianity in their Introduction to Philosophy class.  Our limited perspective doesn’t allow us too. You were not there, and you will not be held accountable for the failures of others.

However, you can mourn the past, and be sorrowful over what has occurred.  Discover ways to identify with the past, and understand the issues.  (For example, I suggest watching 12 Years a Slave in order to address the difficulties of slavery.)  Identifying with those wronged by the church will help us develop empathy, and enable us to direct them to Christ.

3.            Learn from the Past.

When examining the Old Testament, Paul states that we should remember to learn from their example, and to respond in humility.  I Corinthians 10:11 says, “Now these things happened to them as an example, and they were written for our instruction, upon whom the ends of the ages have come. Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall.…”

God is the judge, and so let Him judge the past actions of others.  However, we can learn from them, and examine our own beliefs and actions.

The church is not yet perfect.  God is redeeming the church and our world.  We are called to follow God and work to further His Kingdom.  Each generation is bound to make mistakes, just as those before us.  There is a desperate need for humility as we approaches the Word, while discerning how to respond to social issues.

The church is not perfect, it is only spotless by the blood of Jesus.

Building Your Credit – As two become one.

build credit togetherAs I talked about to young couple starting marriage, one of their main concerns was building their credit score.  Credit scores are important for couple who are considering borrowing money for larger purchases like a car or home.  After two people say, “I Do.”  Your credit score affects both of you.

I searched around the web and found a great article for those who are in the process of building their credit score.

The only part that I don’t appreciate is there assumption on Point #6, “All relationships end.”  While divorce is common even among Christians, what a terrible outlook on marriage!  If you assume that your relationship is going to end, you will not fully give yourself to the marriage.  Marriage relationships require both partners to fully commitment themselves to the long-haul.

May God guide and strengthen your marriage.

 

 

11 Things Millennials only do in Articles about Millennials.

Hate cars with every fiber of their being.

Millennials hate cars with every fiber of their being. Photo courtesy of Shutterstock.

Here is a great humorous piece that I found that illustrates how Millennials are often wrongly characterized in media.

The article’s main point:  “Stop your millennial trend pieces. We don’t all act the same way and love the same thing. Well, except when it comes to Game of Thrones.”

Statistics are helpful as we try to understand and relate to other generations.  Unfortunately, sometimes articles are written using skewed statistics, unreliable statistics, or no statistics at all.

Have a good laugh, and may it cause you not to judge another person by the statistics of their generation.

Your Church is Not Alone…

churchIf your high school student are disappearing after graduation…

If having “more youth” means having more babies…

If your congregation is greying…

If you are still confused by what a Millennial is, let alone how it matters to your church…

If you pray, and pray, and pray, and see no change …

If the young know what is wrong with your church…

If the old know what is wrong with your church…

If these two sides cannot agree on anything…

If your parents of emerging adults are suffering in shame over their kids…

If your emerging adults are suffering in shame over themselves…

If your parents of high school students are scared of what lies ahead…

If you have a passion to see the generations united…

If you no longer want to fear what lies ahead…

If you want to make a difference…

 

You are not alone, but normal.  Welcome to normal.  We can help.

EA Resources is dedicated to helping churches understand the world of Emerging Adults.  We hold seminars on parenting emerging adults, preparing adolescents for emerging adulthood, and helping churches understand Millennials.  If we can help your community, please contact Dr. G. David Boyd at gdavid@earesources.org.